Lately, I’ve noticed conversations excluding me. People are ignoring me, and people laughing at me–someone said they just didn’t want me as a friend anymore. Why would someone choose to be mean to others for no reason?
Often the best choice is to move on, and pursue friendships with people who are more supportive. There are plenty of other people in the school with whom you can be friends. Friendships with people who exclude or make fun of you are not worth pursuing. Unfortunately, sometimes the people you think of as true friends aren’t really friends at all. True friends will do their best to stand by you. There are good friends out there, and you just need to find them. If you shift your focus from the drama with unsupportive friends to developing your own integrity and inner strength, you will likely attract people who also share those qualities. Don’t be afraid to let go of friendships that have deeply and consistently hurt you–drop the rock!
Why would someone choose to be mean to others for no reason? Some people think that in order to be considered cool, they have to be rude to their peers. Keep in mind – their behavior is not about you, it stems from their own insecurities. Try your best not to let this type of behavior get to you, and don’t model it yourself. If you ignore it for long enough, it should stop.